The Law of Inertia.

You cannot become the person you want to be if you continue
being the person you’ve always been.

How do you honestly feel about yourself and your life?
What are the things that prevent you from being who you truly know yourself to be?

Become the observer… how did you get to where you are?
Can you backtrack and deconstruct your path?
If yes, would you do anything differently?

I’ll use myself as an example: I am currently over-busy. Again.
Q- Why am I over busy? This is on on-going challenge for me.
A- I cannot name why, exactly. I have an “ish” idea- so I will seek outside counsel.

Q- Am I trying to escape from something? Identify what.
A- Presently, I am not. But I was and may be stuck in The Law of Inertia. 

Physics and The Law of Inertia- a paraphrase: if there is no force acting upon you- you will continue to do what you are currently doing. You will not change if you continue being the same. A ball in motion will stay in motion and I have been a mad ball in motion for over two years now.

I need to get information about my “why” and what force, or action step, is needed.

When I consider my “problem” I find the question “why do I continually put other’s needs over my own?”

This is something that every Empath is working on.

I have gotten better at this, but am obviously still working on it.
I need more information- so I will ask a trusted loved one.

“What do I appear to be stuck on? Where have I missed the plot?”

If you plan to have this type of conversation with your people, explain what you are doing and why before you ask the question. Set the space. Give them context.
Ask for honest feedback.

If you feel uncomfortable asking, text or email them.

I have learned how to have hard conversations with my loved ones and they are now comfortable giving me feedback, and vice versa. 
I can listen and hear what they are saying about me, to me.

I am also the friend that can be honest with them and I’ve noticed that it almost never needs to be brutal. Everyone responds to gentle truths that come from a space of love and potential growth & healing.

Sometimes, an outside observation is exactly what you need.
Sometimes, you need someone to tell you about yourself.

This is another thing that Empaths are working on- asking for, and receiving, help. 

Give your friends some time to reflect upon your question (s) and let them speak.
Be quiet and listen.
Do not interrupt, argue, defend, explain, justify, make excuses, deny or omg, get offended!

Sit and observe yourself. Notice what is coming up for you.
Shame? Anger? Not good enough shit? Indignation? Fear? Resistance?

The feeling that is activated in your space is what you are working on. The example they used is just the symptom.

Your feeling is the hole in the roof. Your healing is fixing the hole in the roof. What they told you about is the bucket you keep trying to change out. Stop constantly changing the bucket when what you really need to do is fix the roof.
Work on what you’re holding on to, not the trigger.

A recent example:
I asked some trusted friends why do they think I am over busy again?
Their answer: “You are years behind where you want to be with your business and are making up for lost time…”
Their words really landed and also activated some emotions.

Sit and notice what is coming up for you.

Sadness. The last few years have been the hardest of my life. (You too?)
So I’ve been crying a lot. I’ve been releasing the frustration, disappointment, fear, anger, betrayal and despair I felt.

My heart has been broken so much in a short amount of time that I didn’t think I would survive it. Yet, here I am. It is a testament to my tools and practices.
When you learn to grieve consciously, it becomes a healing. The release of grief helps to heal your heart and also releases that which blocks your intuitive space.

I recently lost all of my cats, except Sadie. The death of my boy cat, Newbs, is to date, the most devastating thing I’ve been through. My physical body experienced a full ACL rupture and then the hospital tried to kill me during surgery. (oh, hello chemical sensitivities and Doctors that don’t give a fuck) People I loved took advantage of me. I lost all of my money on a house I will never live in. Lol, and my last bits of money went into my knee. (pinche criminal Medical System in the US)

Release that which keeps you stuck.
I work on myself. Release what I can through my emotions. Tears help release cortisol and other stress hormones and are healing in a myriad of ways.
I get healings, do cleanses, have enlightening conversation with loved ones and I have regular forgiveness and gratitude practices. 
My work is also a great source of healing for me. 

To demonstrate to The Universe that I have learned the lessons and avoid being trapped in a karmic cycle, I will make different decisions moving forward.
Then this chapter of my life won’t be all for naught.

I now have a better understanding of myself and what to be mindful of.
Now that I know what I am working on I can make informed decisions, avoid repeating mistakes and not act from a place of unconscious wounds, or programming.
I can move forward from a space of healing and clarity.

How to change?
Release one habit that limits (contracts) you and replace it with one that expands you.

Another example:
Action steps that I would benefit from (re: over busy)
-saying no more often (personally and professionally)
-scheduling more down time
-scheduling more up (fun) time.

If I feel my space contract when asked to do something, I will decline.
When my space feels expansive, I will accept.

I choose to really own the fact that I am a natural born Empathic Healer and am learning to take care of myself first.

Secondary action steps:
-be more mindful of who I trust
-be more selective of who I spend my time with.

Third step:
Take one step in a new direction knowing that each step will get easier.

It’s the Law of Inertia.

I’ll remain disciplined and committed, but gentle. So, gentle.
I will arrive as the person I know myself to be.

So for you:
1. Ask the questions:
How do you honestly feel about yourself and your life?
What are the things that prevent you from being who you truly know yourself to be?
Are you trying to escape from something? Identify what.
If it’s an old pattern are you stuck in The Law of Inertia?

2. If you feel stuck ask your trusted Loved Ones.
"What do I appear to be stuck on? Where have I missed the plot?”

3. Listen with open ears, mind and heart. These words are intended to help you.
Allow them to.

4. Sit and observe yourself. Notice and name what is coming up for you.
Sink into what you are feeling and release as much of the emotion as you can.
Does it come from a certain time in your life or from a specific person?
Or do you feel awash with it?
Now release the energy. Just imagine it leaving your space- floating away or draining out.

5. Fill yourself in with the opposite energy. Imagine what would be the antidote energy for what you released. I released sadness and so filled in with peace and love. If you are releasing anger consider filling in with happiness and love. You can’t go wrong when you fill in with love. Imagine whatever vibration you choose coming down and filling in your entire body and energetic field. Just do this by intention.

6. Consider your action step (s). What would be the force (s) needed to change your direction? Take one step toward that. Then keep next stepping it ‘til you get to where you want to be.

What if you feel stuck and have no one to ask? Schedule a session and I will help you.

 One of my love languages is tending to your woundedness
while also honoring your innate wellness and ability to heal yourself.

This is who I am. This is what I do. I get you and I got you, Dear One.
Cheers to soul level healing. It is not for the weak.

Love & ladybugs

🐞❤️🌹 Sara